💔 Let’s Talk: Avoidant Attachment – Why He Pulls Away When You Get Close.

Ever felt like every time you lean in, he leans out?

Welcome to the world of avoidant relationship styles—where intimacy feels like a trap and vulnerability is a red flag (to them, not us).

If you’re a Midlife Mumma navigating love, dating, or even decades-long partnerships, here’s the truth: avoidant partners aren’t broken… but they are emotionally unavailable in a way that can leave you questioning your worth.

👉 They crave connection…👉 But fear dependency. 👉 They show up…👉 Then ghost emotionally. 👉 They say, “I’m just independent” …👉 But what they mean is: “I’m terrified you’ll expect something real from me.”

Here’s what often happens to us:

• You start self-blaming.

• You over-give to win them back.

• You confuse their distance for mystery or depth.

• And before you know it, you’re in a one-sided emotional marathon.

Let’s be clear: You’re not too much. You’re not needy. You’re not crazy for wanting connection, consistency, or care.

What you are is worthy of a relationship where love isn’t a game of hide and seek.

🚫 You can’t fix an avoidant partner.

✅ But you can choose to stop chasing someone who’s running from intimacy.

Midlife is your invitation to stop settling. You’ve raised kids, survived heartbreak, maybe even reinvented yourself from scratch. You don’t need breadcrumbs. You need a damn buffet of mutual love, safety, and respect.

✨ Stay open but stay aware. ✨ Stay hopeful but stay honest—with yourself first.

Love should feel safe, not strategic.

With Love,

Midlife Mumma 💋

DISCLAIMER

I am not a licensed therapist, psychologist, or mental health professional. The information shared in this blog is based on personal experience, research, and general knowledge, and is intended for informational and supportive purposes only.

It should not be taken as professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment.